Diva's Weekly Principle:

"Attitude is Everything". ~2011 Diva Principle

Monday, February 28, 2011

Ankle Deep

The funniest thing happened to me today and I wanted to share it. I sware all I could do was stand there and look embarrassed. I'm learning to laugh more and cry less and I really think this was God's way of saying live a little, laugh a lot!

Lyfe is full of choices, I had the day off and I spent the morning resting, afternoon cleaning and by mid-afternoon, I decided to head to books-a-million. This store and Barnes & Noble gets alot of my tyme and money. Sometimes I just feel like to browsing the aisles or sitting in a chair and reading. It relaxes me and its my getaway for the world.

Anyway, here I am up in the book store. If anyone knows me, they know I like nasty. It's just me and who I am. So, I'm in the book aisle looking for something intimacy and I saw this book sitting there on the top shelve. It was covered in Red. Yep, that struck my eye as I'm sure it would have yours. Welp, I'm thinking this has to be a good book. Maybe somebody was getting it for Valentines Day and changed their mind. You know we are full of choices, right?

Here I go reaching to pull the book off the shelf and when I grabbed the book, the whole shelf of books landed right by my feet! Oh yea, made tons of noise and I even heard someone say, are you okay? Oh my God. Everybody standing around staring at me while I'm ankle freaking deep in nasty sex books! What a hilarious laugh and this one I will never forget!!

Needless to say, the next time I might adapt to go down the cooking aisle instead!
At any rate, this was a good laugh and hilariously funny!!

Thursday, February 24, 2011

Start with Me

If I Could Change The World

If I could change the world I would start with myself,
My heart would be clear of hate until none is left.

All the feelings of hurt, sorrow, and anger would be erased,
Then joy, peace, and happiness would be put in its place.

There would be no more stormy days and cold nights,
Only sunshine and smiles in my new life.

No more I can't because I'm a young black man,
But now I'm a young black man, so I can.

View people for who they are and not who they seem to be,
That is the reason why some people misjudge me.

I would always remember what goes around comes around,
So to receive good treatment I won't put others down.

Some people will be the same and never listen,
Realizing now I have to rethink my mission.

Well maybe I can't change every boy and every girl,
So now I say, if I could change my world.
I would, yep I would start with me.
Written by Leon Williams, II

My Fantasy becomes My Reality

If I ever get up enuff nerve, I sware on my own grave I'm going to act out and recite this poem.

This poem always makes me think...
I'm feeling a certain kinda way...and I'm thinking...

Close your eyes as I take you
Beyond the sunrise
Let me take you on a ride of ecstasy
I guarantee when we've finished
You will be begging to stay next to me
Lie down and let me kiss you all over
I'll do it oh so softly being your night time lover
Starting from head to toe no spot will go unkissed
Or unnoticed
Girl your body will yell for my mouths attention
Wanting me to kiss, lick, and massage you
Into a deep sensation, that only the tip of
My tongue can bring to your body
As I look in your eyes they begin to tell me
That you need me inside of you more then anything
As you welcome me in you moan brings pleasure
To me completely inside and outside
Your lips wrestle mine to show how much
Emotion we feel on this sexual ride
You smile as I whisper your name ~ you pull me deeper inside
To make sure I feel all of you hugging and grabbing me
As you get closer to your goal you fight for control
Winning this battle you climb on me and show me how you roll
As I surrender my body to you only one thing runs through
My mind, am I making up a fantasy, or has my fantasy
Finally become…….A REALITY!
Written by Roosevelt "Enigma" Fontaine Jr.

Monday, February 21, 2011

Turn On The Lights

If you're anything like me, I hate to feel frustrated, shamed, sad or depressed. Every day we are faced with some type of situation or circumstance and its some of these emotions that are sometimes hard not to feel. Personally, its okay to feel them; just don't woddle there too long.

There's also those feelings when you fall in love. You know how it just makes your stomach do butterfly flips and you just seem to lose all sense of what to say, act or do? You just feel soo giddish and forgetful and like lyfes on cloud 10 and you're not sure if you're on it or in it. Yea, that is the best feeling ever!!! I love that feeling and wish I could have just stayed there forever.

Then of course, there is the feeling of ohmygosh, I can't believe this is happening feeling. When everything is going so good and things are falling in place. It's almost like wake me up now kinda of feeling. Well, I like that feeling too.

I guess the whole point to this post is, we all have emotions and there are soo many different emotions that we feel on different occassions. You know we will never get around circumstances that make up for the way we feel, but we certainly can learn to not let our circumstances influence our emotional well-being.

You have the power to "turn on the lights"!

Does an Elephant Ever need therapy?

Elephants. Yeah, that's what I'm thinking about right now. Did you know that elephants are said to have a perfect memory? Can you imagaine, remembering every single thing that has happend? Well, yeah. I can imagine. Sometimes, we get so bound up with remembering every detail that it causes us so much pain, misery and even therapy.

As I was thinking about the elephants, I had to laugh. It made me ask myself, "does elephants ever need therapy"? How did they do it? How can they go around all their life remembering every good, bad, hurtful, and spiteful thing that have occured and not need therapy? I'm just saying...

If they truly have perfect memories, then it would also be my guess that they don't have many friends, lovers, or companions. Right? You know what I believe? I believe that they don't take things so personally and they giggle a lot. That's what I believe.

Memories. Most of us, well, lets just say we have a tendancy to store up all the bad things and those good memories we just sholve them over to the side to never mention. We label the good memories and file it under the "never speakon". Those bad, hurtful memories are stored in a folder called "I'll never forget".

Yea, we do that, We have a tendency to forget about the good that people have done but always keep that file of all the bad. It's difficult to let go and forget when someone has wronged you but if we're not very careful, that "elephant perfect memory" can keep us from being happy and having a happy loving relationship with others.

Let's remember to forget and let go of things. Lyfe is too short to store up files of memories of old hurtful mishaps.

Thursday, February 17, 2011

Yoga Flava

Here's a new term and physical movement that I just learned of, at first I found the word to be funny. ASANAS - yep, I pronounced it as (ass a nine). lol.

Yoga first originated in India. In the Yoga Sutras, Patanjali describes asana as the third of the eight limbs of classical, or Raja Yoga. Asanas are the physical movements of yoga practice and, in combination with pranayama or breathing techniques constitute the style of yoga referred to as Hatha Yoga.

In the Yoga Sutra, Patanjali describes asana as a "firm, comfortable posture", referring specifically to the seated posture, most basic of all the asanas. He further suggests that meditation is the path to samādhi; transpersonal self-realization

The eight limbs are, in order, the yamas (restrictions), niyamas (observances), asanas (postures), pranayama (breath work), pratyahara (sense withdrawal or non-attachment), dharana (concentration), dhyana (meditation), and samadhi (realization of the true Self or Atman, and unity with Brahman (The Hindu Concept of God)

The physical aspect of yoga, the asanas, has been much popularized in the West, and devoted celebrity practitioners like Madonna and Sting have contributed to the increased visibility of the practice.

Physically, the practice of asanas is considered to:

improve flexibility
improve strength
improve balance
reduce stress and anxiety
reduce symptoms of lower back pain
be beneficial for asthma and Chronic obstructive pulmonary disease
increase energy and decrease fatigue
shorten labor and improve birth outcomes
improve physical health and quality of life measures in the elderly
improve diabetes management
reduce sleep disturbances
reduce hypertension

I ordered the above dvd of Yoga Flava and as soon as I can get my dvd player hooked up, I'm well on my way. This all seems to be a bit challenging but I'll get there. Hopefully, I can learn the terms, definitions and body postures to understand the practices. It's sad that I live in an area that doesn't offer too many yoga classes.

Oh, by the way; I finally got my YOGA BOOTY PANTS!!!

Friday, February 11, 2011

A Celebration of Lyfe and Legacy

A Woman today by the name of Ms. Ellie K. came by my office and gave me a gift. I sware, it couldn't have come at a better time.

This woman has no idea how special she made me feel. For One, she wanted me to have this gift and stated that she had been working on it for Black History Month and felt lead to give to me. She touched me in such a special way, because it's not often that someone gives me something. I mean people outside my family. You see, I'm always giving to others, I like to give but its really rare to recieve. I'm thankful that she thought about me today.

Ms. Ellie is a gifted artist from New England. She has lived in Wheeling, WV for 25 years and I met her at an Art Exhibit fundraiser. Instantly our spirits connected and we began to talk, that's been 2 years ago.

We are working together on a upcoming multi-cultural event and I'm grateful to know her and very appreciative of my gift.

You wanna know what's the gift? Sure, I'm sorry I didn't mention before now. It's a banner. She called it "A Celebration of Lyfe and Legacy". The picture below is the banner that I left displaying at the YWCA.

Thank you Ms. Ellie, you have trully touched my heart..

I will keep and cherish this banner forever.

Tune Up

Last year, I started working on getting fiscally fit! People, it's 2011 and a financial tune-up is in order; at least for me.

I can remember times when I had to deal with bounce checks and/or missed payments. Thank God those days have past me, but there are some things that I need to tune-up on. My credit. Yep, that's right. My credit is a little on the weak side and this year, I would like to make the right adjustments to correct.

I read somewhere that 54 percent of African American children under the ages of 18 are supported by a single parent. Part of me strongly accepts that irresponsibility plays a big part in our messed up finacial conditions. But, I'm torn between the fact that raising kids in a single parent home and at times not knowing where you're gonna get the funds to pay your light bill makes the burden of paying bills on time that much harder.

I think its high time we create a money plan, don't you?

Trust me, I'm not one who sets huge unrealistic goals. I set goals that challenge me. Goals that help me to reach my highest potential. I've been accused of not examining myself, but in all actuality that's not so. I identify with myself on a daily basis and accept faults, failures, accomplishments, misjudgements, etc.

Ideally this year ~ 2011, I would like to set up some accountable goals that are obtainable as long as I remain focused.

Here's my list. Why don't you take a moment and sit back and create your own set of financial goals.
1. getting financially fit but paying off bills or double up.
2. keep my priorities intact.
3. refrain from eating out as much as I do (this one is gonna be a challenge)
4. start a change jar. Two of my girl friends save all coins. One took a vacation
with the coins she saved. (another challenge for me)
5. Keep up on my emergency fund (this one I kinda have in place, just need to keep
it up)
6. keeping my home as a beautiful living space. free from stress, neglect or
7. Imma start entertaining more at home. (I love playing host and having friends
over, I need to do this more)
2011, it will be worth having a tune-up!

Tuesday, February 8, 2011

Climbing the Ladder in Stilettos

2011!! Its a new year with a new look and feeling.

First off let me say, fellas just cause I mentioned stilettos this doesn't exclude you. So, get your wingtips shined up!

I was at work the other day clowning around and I made a comment. I said, "its time to put up the stilettos". Then I thought about that shit and said, hell to the nah!
I love my stilettos and I'm climbing up the ladder in these bad boys...

On a serious tip, I'm always asking myself questions. I'm always looking for new creative ideas and ways of handling life. That's just me and who I am. You gotta love me or hate me. I am what I am.

Anyways, here's what I been asking myself.

At the end of 2009, I told myself. I said, self: I wanna make $10,000.00 more next year (2010) than I did the previous. Welp, I kinda knew I was on pace but just wasnt sure how close. I went to file my taxes and guess what? I was almost there. I was shy about $1500.00. I'm cool with it though, because I know the areas of opportunties where I was lacking.

This year, It's about creating a pathway and journey that makes me happy. Im climbing the ladder in my stilettos ya'll and as I'm climbing; I've decided I want to be creating, discovering and adapting to my purpose for working.

I'm gonna ask you the same questions: Are you currently happy with your position at work? Do you wake up on Monday morning looking forward to the day and the new week? Are you being challenged to articulate at your maximum potential or are you just complacent and in a comfort zone?

We are gonna talk more in depth about Climbing the Ladder in Stilettos, but for now Im just going to leave you with those thought provoking questions.

Ladies get your pumps ready and fellas shine up those wingtips because we are getting ready to climb that corporate ladder!!

I dont know about you, but I'm in it to win it!!!

Monday, February 7, 2011

Pepsi MAX® - Love Hurts | 2011 Super Bowl XLV

Are you serious? Okay, if you haven't heard by now; check out the video and you tell me.

To get a point across, why did it have to be a "black women" expressing anger?? What the F**k was Pepsi thinking?

Should black women be angry and outraged at this AD? I think we should.

Thursday, February 3, 2011

Halle Berry

I personally think Gabriel Aubry exposure to Mrs. Halle Berry should be a wake up call!

A wake up call to all the brothas out there that tend to devalue/demean/disrepect black women. A wake up call to the black man for putting the black woman behind all those "White Women". A wake up call to the black man to understand, you can't get upset with the "White Man". How could you?

Sure it pisses me off that it's the typical "WHITE" man calling out the N word. For real, at the end of the day; we are still just a N word. Think about how many white men/women on a daily basis: smile in our face, work beside us, some of us (like Halle) they may even kiss our lips. But, quiet as kept, when its all over "we are just a N***a".

My brotha, why are you mad? Aren't you the same brotha that sleeps with white women? Aren't you the same brotha that demeans, devalues and shows NO RESPECT to a sista? Aren't you the same brotha that's afraid/hates a sista with qualities?

Yea, you are the one: the one that only deals with a sista if she's a whore. Why are you so mad? How can you be mad, when you yourself have NO RESPECT for a sista whose down for you?

Help me understand, how can you get mad at a white man sleeping with a sista and demeaning her? How can you be mad when that same white man calls us the N word? Aren't you that brotha that sleeps at night with a White Woman but during the day portrays to be Mr. Black Power? Aren't you that brotha?

Oh, that's right. You stand on the "Chris Rock" belief: I forgot. "A white woman plays her position while a black women wants your position" I forgot about the Chris Rock syndrome. But, when its all said and done...

Like Halle Berry, What are you? And, how can you be mad at the white man?

F. R. I. E. N. D. S. H. I. P.

F ~ Fun, forgiving & faithful
R ~ Reliable, Real & Reassuring
I ~ Inseparable, Interested & Inspiring
E ~ Exciting, Energetic & Easy
N ~ Nurturing, Necessary & Noncompetitive
D ~ Dependable, Daring & Delightful
S ~ Smart, Silly & Soothing
H ~ Helpful, Hallowed & Handy
I ~ Independent & Imaginative
P ~ Pampering, Pragmatic & Pleasing

2011 ~ These are the qualities I WANT to recieve but most importantily, I WANT to give these qualities to my friends.

I think about friendship and I value the time spent with having people in my lyfe that I would never want to lose. Friendships are priceless.