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A Balanced Woman

Hi world! Let me first apologize for neglecting my viewers. I've been a little pre-occupied lately and haven't taken the time to keep up with my post. Honestly, from being busy, to thinking and contemplating giving up on writing. My thoughts are: who reads it and cares anyway? But yet again, I continue on; it helps me if no one eles.

I ran across this article the other day and felt the need to share. I hope it encourages you to be the woman you where called to be as much as it encouraged me and I hope that it helps you realize that taking care of yourself is a priority.


A Balanced Woman
By Jacqueline Hale


What is a "balanced woman?" I've asked myself over and over again. I have searched for answers. I have asked others. I have surfed the web. But the answers I've come up with have more to do with what a balanced woman is NOT. Then it occurred to me that perhaps through exploring what it is not we can define, determine and conclude exactly what a balanced woman is.

A BALANCED WOMAN CUTS HERSELF SOME SLACK
A balanced woman is not SUPERWOMAN! Superwoman is a mythical cartoon figure who was never based upon an actual female. If she had been real she'd be popular and famous and rich by now! She wouldn't still be just some Saturday morning cartoon! A balanced woman is not someone who can do it all. There are only 24 hours in each day, 16 if you allow yourself some sleep. Sixteen hours just aren't enough to tend to yourself, your partner, your children, your work, your home and your friends! A balanced woman understands this. She does not consider herself a FAILURE for her inability to do it all, all the time. She understands that she has limits. She accepts those limits and she does what she can with the time and energy she has.

A BALANCED WOMAN HAS FLAWS
A balanced woman is not perfect nor does she expect PERFECTION from herself. She is human and like all human beings she has mood swings, energy shifts and days when she just might not feel like being productive at all. She is not someone who expects to be DONE one day -- done with the housework, done with the homework, done with the cooking, done with the bill paying, done with the shopping, etc. etc. She understands that she will never be "done" and therefore, she doesn't try. A balanced woman is not someone who NEGLECTS her own needs. She understands that if her needs are not met there will be little left of her to give to others.

A BALANCED WOMAN KNOWS WHAT'S IMPORTANT
A balanced woman does understand PRIORITIES and as such she understands that priorities can and do change daily. Therefore, she is always adjusting her schedule and her plans to accommodate her priorities of the day. She does understand time management and so she has learned not to OVERCOMMIT herself. She has worked at saying "no" and she has let go of the guilt associated with that two-letter word. A balanced woman is always looking for better and FASTER ways to accomplish some of the less important yet equally demanding responsibilities in her life.

A BALANCED WOMAN KNOWS LESS IS MORE
A balanced woman defines what it is she really wants and directs her RESOURCES accordingly. A balanced woman questions what it is she wants to be remembered for at the end of her life and she lives each day consistent with the answers she has found. Ultimately, a balanced woman understands that a life of QUALITY is much more important and far more rewarding than a life of QUANTITY. She knows that it is her relationships with people that count more than a clean house, more than the perfect meal, more than spotless laundry, and more than an endless supply of money in the bank.

A BALANCED WOMAN IS ALWAYS EVOLVING
Being a balanced woman is an ongoing PROCESS. It is not a destination. It involves constantly reminding yourself about what it is that's important to you. And it involves truly BELIEVING that you are okay when you can't do it all and when you are less than perfect.

BadAss, Bossy or Bitch

Remember the times where "B*tch" were fighting words? Shit, I can remember like it was yesterday. Yelling, oh you calling out my name? Yeah, I got your b*tch. Those days are seemily long long gone.

Personally, I don't think I could ever become comfortable being called "b*tch" in any one of these terms that society is now using. Maybe I'm just from the back in the day era, who knows. I read this article in the Black Voices Column and thought it might be a little thought provoking. Check it out.

The term “b*tch” has a double meaning. It can be used to represent a “bossy” lady, someone who takes charge, knows what she wants out of life and isn’t taking no for an answer. Or the term can be used to represent a woman who resembles someone with a trashy and poor attitude and just an overall bad personality. I’ve always wondered why women like to be called a “bad b*tch”, when it has such double meaning and it mostly associated with negative connotations.

Rapper, singers and musicians mostly in the hip hop genre use the term in songs to represent their “ideal” type of woman, and in turn our society has taken the word and labeled some of the most powerful women in our generation a “bad b*tch”. Look at women like Rihanna, Nicki Minaj, Beyonce etc. How many times have you heard these women referred to as a “bad b*tch” or even refer to themselves as one?

It’s interesting to see how the work “b*tch” can be used to represent a women of power but at the same time can also be used to represent something negative. It’s also interesting to think about how a woman of authority is called a “b*tch” but a man in authority is a “boss”. Something to think about right?

I've Learned

Maya Angelou said this:
“I've learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.

I've learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights.

I've learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you'll miss them when they're gone from your life.

I've learned that making a 'living' is not the same thing as 'making a life.

I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance.

I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catcher's mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw some things back...

I've learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision.

I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one.

I've learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back...

I've learned that I still have a lot to learn...
I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.

"F" Word

A New Take On The “F” Word

Humor: A New Take On The “F” Word Written by Oretha Winston on March 24, 2011

Laughter , it’s said, is the best medicine. And there’s lots of evidence that laughter does lots of good things for us. It reduces pain and allows us to tolerate discomfort. It reduces blood sugar levels, increasing glucose tolerance in diabetics and nondiabetics alike. It improves your job performance, especially if your work depends on creativity and solving complex problems. Its role in intimate relationships is vastly underestimated and it really is the glue of good marriages. It synchronizes the brains of speaker and listener so that they are emotionally attuned.

Laughter establishes — or restores — a positive emotional climate and a sense of connection between two people, In fact, some researchers believe that the major function of laughter is to bring people together. And all the health benefits of laughter may simply result from the social support that laughter stimulates.Here is a funny take on the use of the “F’ word. Cee Lo Green would be proud.



We should all laugh every now and then.

Since my original plans fell through, I decided to take Plan B! Yep, I'm Headed to Cleveland and planning to stay a few extra days, its a must to have my friend take me to this church!!

Chewing through the Restraints

Have you ever felt like you keep knulling, nippling and chewing at something but getting nowhere? You try and do everything you can to stay upbeat, hopeful, confident and positive and yet you still land in the toliet. What's a girl suppose to do?

Today like many other days, I just feel like I can't win for losing. We had a conference call about our year over year numbers and targets. Needless to say for a year now, I've been TOP 5 in the Region of WV/PA/OH, but as a whole we are down with our yearly quota.

Numbers and selling that's the name of the game and here recently I'm beginning to feel more and more pressure coming from the big wigs. Newer and better phones/iPads are launching and all they want us to do is sell sell sell.

These past couple of months, even though I'm finishing in top 5 its been a real struggle. Yes, finishing in the top says alot, but it also brings on a great deal of pressure and stress.

This month has been horrible and we are all trying our darnest to make quotas. This month just feels like an ongoing quest to free myself from the tranny of quotas, circumstances and targets.

The big wigs, I don't know if they live in the same world as me or not; I wanna tell them hey: get your fucking head out of numbers and take a look around. We are in recession got damn it, people aren't buying or spending like they us to!!!!

At our store, We all are working and busting ass and needless to say, they still wanna keep pulling more from us. We can't give what isn't available. People don't even come to the mall anymore.

I give up chewing through all these restraints to hit a quota! I ask, what's a girl suppost to do?

Sometimes you just get tierd of chewing.

Not Forgotten

What happened to Serena Williams?
Shortly after winning her fourth Wimbledon title last July, Williams cut her foot on a shard of glass. The severe cut required surgery and 18 stitches. Although she played an exhibition match shortly thereafter, continuing problems with the foot has kept her out of competition since then.

Hours after she dazzled the red carpet at the Vanity Fair Oscars party, Serena Williams was in a Los Angeles hospital receiving emergency treatment for a blood clot in her lungs.

News that a top athlete like Serena Williams suffered a pulmonary embolism has many people wondering how this could happen to someone who stays fit for a living.

Well, the truth is, deep vein thrombosis can happen to anyone. And since Williams had just undergone surgery, her risk was increased.

What is a pulmonary embolism?
A pulmonary embolism is a blood clot that blocks a major artery feeding the lungs.

These clots usually arise in the leg, usually in a deep vein. Doctors call such a clot a thrombosis. A clot arising in a deep leg vein is called a deep venous thrombosis or DVT. DVTs often arise after a period of inactivity and are particularly common after long airplane flights. A clot originating in a deep leg vein in some cases will break free and travel to the lungs, causing a pulmonary embolism.

Deep vein thrombosis (DVT) leading to a pulmonary embolism can occur at any age. Of course there are risk factors like clotting disorders, taking birth control pills, prolonged immobility, smoking, family history and being overweight.

I hope and pray Serena is back up feeling spiritually, financially, mentally, physically and emotionally better real soon. I hope she can put all this behind and press forward.

I read her tweets and sometimes, it makes me wonder, If she's really happy? Call it a keen eye or whatever, but I'm reading between her lines and seeing through her smile. Maybe, what I see is alot of myself. Who knows?

Her last tweet over a week ago, made me start praying harder for her and harder for myself. She said, "I wish that someone would come and find me, until then I walk alone". She sounded so much like how I'm feeling. At least, she's brave enuff to put it out there.

Until then Serena, I hope your feeling better soon and I'm a fan that's praying for you!

Ankle Deep

The funniest thing happened to me today and I wanted to share it. I sware all I could do was stand there and look embarrassed. I'm learning to laugh more and cry less and I really think this was God's way of saying live a little, laugh a lot!

Lyfe is full of choices, I had the day off and I spent the morning resting, afternoon cleaning and by mid-afternoon, I decided to head to books-a-million. This store and Barnes & Noble gets alot of my tyme and money. Sometimes I just feel like to browsing the aisles or sitting in a chair and reading. It relaxes me and its my getaway for the world.

Anyway, here I am up in the book store. If anyone knows me, they know I like nasty. It's just me and who I am. So, I'm in the book aisle looking for something intimacy and I saw this book sitting there on the top shelve. It was covered in Red. Yep, that struck my eye as I'm sure it would have yours. Welp, I'm thinking this has to be a good book. Maybe somebody was getting it for Valentines Day and changed their mind. You know we are full of choices, right?

Here I go reaching to pull the book off the shelf and when I grabbed the book, the whole shelf of books landed right by my feet! Oh yea, made tons of noise and I even heard someone say, are you okay? Oh my God. Everybody standing around staring at me while I'm ankle freaking deep in nasty sex books! What a hilarious laugh and this one I will never forget!!

Needless to say, the next time I might adapt to go down the cooking aisle instead!
At any rate, this was a good laugh and hilariously funny!!

Start with Me

If I Could Change The World

If I could change the world I would start with myself,
My heart would be clear of hate until none is left.

All the feelings of hurt, sorrow, and anger would be erased,
Then joy, peace, and happiness would be put in its place.

There would be no more stormy days and cold nights,
Only sunshine and smiles in my new life.

No more I can't because I'm a young black man,
But now I'm a young black man, so I can.

View people for who they are and not who they seem to be,
That is the reason why some people misjudge me.

I would always remember what goes around comes around,
So to receive good treatment I won't put others down.

Some people will be the same and never listen,
Realizing now I have to rethink my mission.

Well maybe I can't change every boy and every girl,
So now I say, if I could change my world.
I would, yep I would start with me.
Written by Leon Williams, II

My Fantasy becomes My Reality

If I ever get up enuff nerve, I sware on my own grave I'm going to act out and recite this poem.

This poem always makes me think...
I'm feeling a certain kinda way...and I'm thinking...

Close your eyes as I take you
Beyond the sunrise
Let me take you on a ride of ecstasy
I guarantee when we've finished
You will be begging to stay next to me
Lie down and let me kiss you all over
I'll do it oh so softly being your night time lover
Starting from head to toe no spot will go unkissed
Or unnoticed
Girl your body will yell for my mouths attention
Wanting me to kiss, lick, and massage you
Into a deep sensation, that only the tip of
My tongue can bring to your body
As I look in your eyes they begin to tell me
That you need me inside of you more then anything
As you welcome me in you moan brings pleasure
To me completely inside and outside
Your lips wrestle mine to show how much
Emotion we feel on this sexual ride
You smile as I whisper your name ~ you pull me deeper inside
To make sure I feel all of you hugging and grabbing me
As you get closer to your goal you fight for control
Winning this battle you climb on me and show me how you roll
As I surrender my body to you only one thing runs through
My mind, am I making up a fantasy, or has my fantasy
Finally become…….A REALITY!
Written by Roosevelt "Enigma" Fontaine Jr.

Turn On The Lights

If you're anything like me, I hate to feel frustrated, shamed, sad or depressed. Every day we are faced with some type of situation or circumstance and its some of these emotions that are sometimes hard not to feel. Personally, its okay to feel them; just don't woddle there too long.

There's also those feelings when you fall in love. You know how it just makes your stomach do butterfly flips and you just seem to lose all sense of what to say, act or do? You just feel soo giddish and forgetful and like lyfes on cloud 10 and you're not sure if you're on it or in it. Yea, that is the best feeling ever!!! I love that feeling and wish I could have just stayed there forever.

Then of course, there is the feeling of ohmygosh, I can't believe this is happening feeling. When everything is going so good and things are falling in place. It's almost like wake me up now kinda of feeling. Well, I like that feeling too.

I guess the whole point to this post is, we all have emotions and there are soo many different emotions that we feel on different occassions. You know we will never get around circumstances that make up for the way we feel, but we certainly can learn to not let our circumstances influence our emotional well-being.

You have the power to "turn on the lights"!

Does an Elephant Ever need therapy?

Elephants. Yeah, that's what I'm thinking about right now. Did you know that elephants are said to have a perfect memory? Can you imagaine, remembering every single thing that has happend? Well, yeah. I can imagine. Sometimes, we get so bound up with remembering every detail that it causes us so much pain, misery and even therapy.

As I was thinking about the elephants, I had to laugh. It made me ask myself, "does elephants ever need therapy"? How did they do it? How can they go around all their life remembering every good, bad, hurtful, and spiteful thing that have occured and not need therapy? I'm just saying...

If they truly have perfect memories, then it would also be my guess that they don't have many friends, lovers, or companions. Right? You know what I believe? I believe that they don't take things so personally and they giggle a lot. That's what I believe.

Memories. Most of us, well, lets just say we have a tendancy to store up all the bad things and those good memories we just sholve them over to the side to never mention. We label the good memories and file it under the "never speakon". Those bad, hurtful memories are stored in a folder called "I'll never forget".

Yea, we do that, We have a tendency to forget about the good that people have done but always keep that file of all the bad. It's difficult to let go and forget when someone has wronged you but if we're not very careful, that "elephant perfect memory" can keep us from being happy and having a happy loving relationship with others.

Let's remember to forget and let go of things. Lyfe is too short to store up files of memories of old hurtful mishaps.

Yoga Flava

Here's a new term and physical movement that I just learned of, at first I found the word to be funny. ASANAS - yep, I pronounced it as (ass a nine). lol.

Yoga first originated in India. In the Yoga Sutras, Patanjali describes asana as the third of the eight limbs of classical, or Raja Yoga. Asanas are the physical movements of yoga practice and, in combination with pranayama or breathing techniques constitute the style of yoga referred to as Hatha Yoga.

In the Yoga Sutra, Patanjali describes asana as a "firm, comfortable posture", referring specifically to the seated posture, most basic of all the asanas. He further suggests that meditation is the path to samādhi; transpersonal self-realization

The eight limbs are, in order, the yamas (restrictions), niyamas (observances), asanas (postures), pranayama (breath work), pratyahara (sense withdrawal or non-attachment), dharana (concentration), dhyana (meditation), and samadhi (realization of the true Self or Atman, and unity with Brahman (The Hindu Concept of God)

The physical aspect of yoga, the asanas, has been much popularized in the West, and devoted celebrity practitioners like Madonna and Sting have contributed to the increased visibility of the practice.

Physically, the practice of asanas is considered to:

improve flexibility
improve strength
improve balance
reduce stress and anxiety
reduce symptoms of lower back pain
be beneficial for asthma and Chronic obstructive pulmonary disease
increase energy and decrease fatigue
shorten labor and improve birth outcomes
improve physical health and quality of life measures in the elderly
improve diabetes management
reduce sleep disturbances
reduce hypertension

I ordered the above dvd of Yoga Flava and as soon as I can get my dvd player hooked up, I'm well on my way. This all seems to be a bit challenging but I'll get there. Hopefully, I can learn the terms, definitions and body postures to understand the practices. It's sad that I live in an area that doesn't offer too many yoga classes.

Oh, by the way; I finally got my YOGA BOOTY PANTS!!!

A Celebration of Lyfe and Legacy

A Woman today by the name of Ms. Ellie K. came by my office and gave me a gift. I sware, it couldn't have come at a better time.

This woman has no idea how special she made me feel. For One, she wanted me to have this gift and stated that she had been working on it for Black History Month and felt lead to give to me. She touched me in such a special way, because it's not often that someone gives me something. I mean people outside my family. You see, I'm always giving to others, I like to give but its really rare to recieve. I'm thankful that she thought about me today.

Ms. Ellie is a gifted artist from New England. She has lived in Wheeling, WV for 25 years and I met her at an Art Exhibit fundraiser. Instantly our spirits connected and we began to talk, that's been 2 years ago.

We are working together on a upcoming multi-cultural event and I'm grateful to know her and very appreciative of my gift.

You wanna know what's the gift? Sure, I'm sorry I didn't mention before now. It's a banner. She called it "A Celebration of Lyfe and Legacy". The picture below is the banner that I left displaying at the YWCA.

Thank you Ms. Ellie, you have trully touched my heart..

I will keep and cherish this banner forever.

Tune Up

Last year, I started working on getting fiscally fit! People, it's 2011 and a financial tune-up is in order; at least for me.

I can remember times when I had to deal with bounce checks and/or missed payments. Thank God those days have past me, but there are some things that I need to tune-up on. My credit. Yep, that's right. My credit is a little on the weak side and this year, I would like to make the right adjustments to correct.

I read somewhere that 54 percent of African American children under the ages of 18 are supported by a single parent. Part of me strongly accepts that irresponsibility plays a big part in our messed up finacial conditions. But, I'm torn between the fact that raising kids in a single parent home and at times not knowing where you're gonna get the funds to pay your light bill makes the burden of paying bills on time that much harder.

I think its high time we create a money plan, don't you?

Trust me, I'm not one who sets huge unrealistic goals. I set goals that challenge me. Goals that help me to reach my highest potential. I've been accused of not examining myself, but in all actuality that's not so. I identify with myself on a daily basis and accept faults, failures, accomplishments, misjudgements, etc.

Ideally this year ~ 2011, I would like to set up some accountable goals that are obtainable as long as I remain focused.

Here's my list. Why don't you take a moment and sit back and create your own set of financial goals.
1. getting financially fit but paying off bills or double up.
2. keep my priorities intact.
3. refrain from eating out as much as I do (this one is gonna be a challenge)
4. start a change jar. Two of my girl friends save all coins. One took a vacation
with the coins she saved. (another challenge for me)
5. Keep up on my emergency fund (this one I kinda have in place, just need to keep
it up)
6. keeping my home as a beautiful living space. free from stress, neglect or
negativism.
7. Imma start entertaining more at home. (I love playing host and having friends
over, I need to do this more)
2011, it will be worth having a tune-up!

Climbing the Ladder in Stilettos

2011!! Its a new year with a new look and feeling.

First off let me say, fellas just cause I mentioned stilettos this doesn't exclude you. So, get your wingtips shined up!

I was at work the other day clowning around and I made a comment. I said, "its time to put up the stilettos". Then I thought about that shit and said, hell to the nah!
I love my stilettos and I'm climbing up the ladder in these bad boys...

On a serious tip, I'm always asking myself questions. I'm always looking for new creative ideas and ways of handling life. That's just me and who I am. You gotta love me or hate me. I am what I am.

Anyways, here's what I been asking myself.

At the end of 2009, I told myself. I said, self: I wanna make $10,000.00 more next year (2010) than I did the previous. Welp, I kinda knew I was on pace but just wasnt sure how close. I went to file my taxes and guess what? I was almost there. I was shy about $1500.00. I'm cool with it though, because I know the areas of opportunties where I was lacking.

This year, It's about creating a pathway and journey that makes me happy. Im climbing the ladder in my stilettos ya'll and as I'm climbing; I've decided I want to be creating, discovering and adapting to my purpose for working.

I'm gonna ask you the same questions: Are you currently happy with your position at work? Do you wake up on Monday morning looking forward to the day and the new week? Are you being challenged to articulate at your maximum potential or are you just complacent and in a comfort zone?

We are gonna talk more in depth about Climbing the Ladder in Stilettos, but for now Im just going to leave you with those thought provoking questions.

Ladies get your pumps ready and fellas shine up those wingtips because we are getting ready to climb that corporate ladder!!

I dont know about you, but I'm in it to win it!!!

Pepsi MAX® - Love Hurts | 2011 Super Bowl XLV

Are you serious? Okay, if you haven't heard by now; check out the video and you tell me.

To get a point across, why did it have to be a "black women" expressing anger?? What the F**k was Pepsi thinking?

Should black women be angry and outraged at this AD? I think we should.

Halle Berry

I personally think Gabriel Aubry exposure to Mrs. Halle Berry should be a wake up call!

A wake up call to all the brothas out there that tend to devalue/demean/disrepect black women. A wake up call to the black man for putting the black woman behind all those "White Women". A wake up call to the black man to understand, you can't get upset with the "White Man". How could you?

Sure it pisses me off that it's the typical "WHITE" man calling out the N word. For real, at the end of the day; we are still just a N word. Think about how many white men/women on a daily basis: smile in our face, work beside us, some of us (like Halle) they may even kiss our lips. But, quiet as kept, when its all over "we are just a N***a".

My brotha, why are you mad? Aren't you the same brotha that sleeps with white women? Aren't you the same brotha that demeans, devalues and shows NO RESPECT to a sista? Aren't you the same brotha that's afraid/hates a sista with qualities?

Yea, you are the one: the one that only deals with a sista if she's a whore. Why are you so mad? How can you be mad, when you yourself have NO RESPECT for a sista whose down for you?

Help me understand, how can you get mad at a white man sleeping with a sista and demeaning her? How can you be mad when that same white man calls us the N word? Aren't you that brotha that sleeps at night with a White Woman but during the day portrays to be Mr. Black Power? Aren't you that brotha?

Oh, that's right. You stand on the "Chris Rock" belief: I forgot. "A white woman plays her position while a black women wants your position" I forgot about the Chris Rock syndrome. But, when its all said and done...

Like Halle Berry, What are you? And, how can you be mad at the white man?

F. R. I. E. N. D. S. H. I. P.

F ~ Fun, forgiving & faithful
R ~ Reliable, Real & Reassuring
I ~ Inseparable, Interested & Inspiring
E ~ Exciting, Energetic & Easy
N ~ Nurturing, Necessary & Noncompetitive
D ~ Dependable, Daring & Delightful
S ~ Smart, Silly & Soothing
H ~ Helpful, Hallowed & Handy
I ~ Independent & Imaginative
P ~ Pampering, Pragmatic & Pleasing

2011 ~ These are the qualities I WANT to recieve but most importantily, I WANT to give these qualities to my friends.

I think about friendship and I value the time spent with having people in my lyfe that I would never want to lose. Friendships are priceless.

2011 The Year of The Black Women

Ladies get ready. Take your place. Word in the News is: This is our year!

2011 is The Year of "The Black Women".

Take Your Place

What happened to us? Who are you? Do you know who you are? What happened to the pride and the dignity and the love and respect that we had for one another. Where did it go. And how, How do we get it back? I'ma tell you.

Young Black men, take your place. We need you. Your sons and daughters need you. Did you understand what I just said. You were sold off and had no choice, yes but now it's time to stay. Take your place. Now. Starting now. Starting now.

Young black women, you are more than your thighs and your hips. You are beautiful, strong, powerful. I want more from you. Take your place.

I took part of the poem that Cicley Tyson recited in Madea's Family Reunion. I was watching and every time I hear it, I feel it deep down in my soul.

What keeps us from taking our place? Is it fear, complacency, confussion, etc. Whatever it is, I'm ready to stand tall and get it back.

I have a place, you have a place and the time is now to "Take Your Place."

R ~ E ~ L ~ A ~ T ~ E

I've been thinking about how I relate to people. Actually, I've been thinking alot about this and I thought well, let's just break down what relate/connects means to me.

I'm considered a very stand offish type person and it's hard at times for me to relate and connect. When I make a connection with someone and truly begin to connect, it normally has everything to do with respecting, encouraging, listening, advicing, trusting and empowering.
R ~ RESPECT
E ~ Encourage
L ~ Listen
A ~ Advice
T ~ Trust
E ~ Empower

People that we care about, we should relate and connect with them in ways that let them know they are important. Lyfe is too short not to connect and relate with friends and family.

Why don't you start today and take a moment to R~E~L~A~T~E with someone you care about today? If you have anything different, I would love to hear what the word means to you.

My Strong and Powerful Black Man

Beautiful Black Man
by Victoria Z


Like a lion that stands over his pride
And has dominion over his land
You are fearfully and wonderfully made
A Strong and Powerful Black Man


You are a centrifugal and driving force
That draws me deeply into you
You are everything that my heart desires
Your love I could never refuse

Even in those times when it seems
That the world knows not your name
I will always be there to remind you
Of your strength, your pride and your fame


Though most personify fear of you
Because of what they do not know
For it is not what their eyes can see
But rather what their hearts truthfully know


That your abilities are limitless
Your hands can accomplish any task
Even when it seems impossible
You always manage to show contrast


I am only trying to reassure you
That I am the exception to the rule
That I will love you no matter what
Win, draw, or lose


Even when you are feeling
That you have lost your place in this land
Sometimes being portrayed and even told
That you are less than a man


Don’t you give in to anger
Please don’t hold your head down
Exhibit your strength and your pride
Remember, you wear a crown


Because You are still a King amongst Kings
In my world, you are high in demand


Remember, I do love you no matter what

My Strong and Powerful Black Man!

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2011

Happy New Year to all my readers!

This year, for the first time, I have made no resolutions. I think this is the first in over 10 years where I haven't set some type of rules, guidelines or must do's/can't do's. haha.

My New Year is currently moving onward to a great start unlike the previous year of 2010. You know, I'm really feeling at peace with my life and how it is unfolding.

One thing for sure tho, I want 2011 to be a year of growth, prospering upward, maturing in areas where I am weak so that I can be made stronger. Everything isn't the way I would like them to be, but I'm learning to accept and move forward with change. Happiness isn't based upon circumstances (although it helps). smile.

I wish all my readers a very happy new year filled with opportunities, good health, and growth on every level!

Lets journey together, another year, on a pathway that leads us to destiny.

I love all my readers.