Everyday on Purpose

Living everyday on purpose! It took me forever and a year to get to this point in lyfe and at 45, I'm still learning to mustur the thought of everyday living on purpose.

I must admit though, it is so damn exciting and finally I'm enjoying lyfe at its best. Is everyday a good day, hell to the nawh.

My God only knows, it certainly has taken me damn 45 years to learn how to embrace the Good, the Bad and the everyday freaking Ugly.

I look at lyfe as "bootcamp", everyday is a day of training. A day of learning. A day of being all that God has created me to be. I would much rather, wake up every morning with a focused direction and a target point in lyfe then to wake up lost and not knowing what to do for the day.

How bout you? How about we make ourselves a vow or should I say a "promise". Let's begin the day with telling ourselves no matter what, we are going to excel. Excel in our lyfe situations, excel in our circumstances and let's stop being so damn flustered!

Girlfriend, this is the way to new beginnings. This is the new NOW! This is the way to deeper depths and higher heights. Don't you wanna go? Come go with me.

Yes, we all get tired from time to time and we all slip off the tracks but guess what? We can't stay here. Jump back on the tracks and chose. Yes, chose to maintain a positive, upbeat attitude on purpose!

Let's strut our day out on PURPOSE.

DIVA Confession

I confess that I don't know it all and I have soo much more to learn.
I confess that I'm a work in progress striving to have a better tomorrow.
I confess that I may not always be open minded, but I'm learning to be.
I confess that I will remain "real" and "true".
I confess that at tymes I just don't want to be bothered with anyone.
I confess that I'm aware, my lyfe experience is and will be different then yours.
I confess that as we grow together, we can learn of each other.
I confess that at tymes, it it difficult to remain cool.
I confess that I don't feel strong or confident all the damn tyme.
I confess that I am weak in sum areas and lack thereof.
I confess that there are tymes that I don't even feel like praying.
I confess that I desire to be held and loved by my man.

I confess that I am only human and not SUPERWOMAN (although, I'd love to be)*smile
I confess...

As a DIVA, I'm aware and I confess.

I Wonder

A male friend of mine stopped by to see me today. Haven't seen him in a long time. He still wants to holla, but really and truly; I got no time for dirt bags. Don't get me wrong, the brother is fine as hell. He dresses sweet, keeps a fresh cut and he's a chocolate flavor the kinda taste that I like. (smile)

As he walked away. I began to WONDER.
I thought about someone and I began to wonder about this other person.
I wonder does he even care about his image?
I wonder is he trying to self distruct himself?
I wonder why is his self image so low?
I wonder why does he hate himself?
I wonder why is he fasinated with trying to change a stripper/hoe into a housewife?
I wonder is he on this ego power trip?
I wonder does he hate women?

Then,
I wondered a little further:
I wonder does he know the chick that he bangs, she has already put his business out in the street?
I wonder, does he know that she is telling everyone she is cuffing him up to be her next victim?
I wonder does he know the chick thinks he is dumb and wierd doo?
I wonder does he know she has shown his DICK pictures to some young girls?
I wonder does he know she has even shown his text messages to them?
I wonder does he know that now the young girls that he interacts with are seeing nothing but his dick and forgetting he is a leader and their elder. That their laughing everytime he sees them?
I wonder, is this the lyfestyle he is building for himself and for his child?

After all that:
I wonder,
I wonder, should I even tell this man?
I wonder, would it even matter; would it make a difference giving him a heads up? Because Obviously, he feels some type of trust for the chick and thinks she isn't telling people.
I wonder, maybe he is that damn stupid?
I wonder, why the fuck should I even care? It's none of my business anyway.

I said, DIVA just Snap back!
Maybe this is the type of chick he needs. Maybe this chick will give him what he deserves.

I just wonder, I hope he is using at least 3 rubbers on this chick. Cause man o man, if he knew what I knew. Wow, he wouldn't even entertain or stomach the thought of her. That is, if he loved himself enough.

I wonder, and maybe someone can answer:
Why are we as people having such low self images and we aren't even concerned about the repercussions that follow our behaviors?
I wonder can anyone help me understand?

The Sneaky, Charming Jezzy

The Sneaky, Charming Jezebel
I found this article today and found it to be most appropiate. I wanted to share it with you, to help you and myself know when you are staring right at JEZZY so that you know how to deal with JEZZY.

Be bold enough to stand up to the JEZZY and understand you are up for a huge battle. For your sake and mine, don't let another JEZZY downplay you, steal, undermine or cast you away as a NOBODY!
Don't be fooled by the picture either, a JEZEBEL can also be a male! Just watch your back especially when dealing with mainstream people.
1. They gain power by removing and destroying those they are afraid of.

2. They are very subtle. They will take credit for the accomplishments of others, and have the others overlooked.

3. So “sweet,” deceitful, “timid,” “innocent,” “feminine,” and sneaky, they are able to fool and recruit others to join them. They can be very charming and charismatic. Their charm is learned behavior, and their “sincerity” is not sincere. They can use their charm to get into positions of authority, while not even being qualified for that position .

4. Quietly plans and trys to remove, and sweetly backstabs to get their way.. They will hold secret meetings behind their victims back to present their case. Of course, they do not see this as gossip, but label it as “sharing a concern.”

5. They are never wrong. To admit they are wrong would mean destruction of their artificial self image.

6. Instead of aggression, they draw on the compassion of others to win support. They become the false victims in a conflict while the true victim gets the blame.

7. They are narcissic. They are not sympathetic to their victims, and tend to play the role of victim themselves, in order to gain sympathy. This way the real victim is left stranded, and opposed by others if they ask for help.

8. They lie, and they know they are lying. Avoiding the truth, or intentionally acting to withhold truth is part of this. False picture is presented to others. Lying is necessary to protect mistakes they make, and blame on others.

9. Impulsive, failure to plan ahead. Their life is Chaotic most of the times.

10. Lack of remorse after hurting someone. They justify the harm.

11. Consistent irresponsibility.


***Note: When dealing with this situation of victim-hood, it is vital that a proper investigation is made to distinguish the real victim from the fake one. The real one will tell the truth. The Jezebel will be unfair and lie. Position or authority is not relevant.

Only character and proof, or lack of it, can tell the difference.

Happy Mothers Day

I remember when my mom had to learn how to braid. As a little girl, my hair use to be down to my butt and my mom practice over and over to style my hair (the african american way). She is a true trooper and my hero!

To My Mom!
A Mother's love is something
that no on can explain,
It is made of deep devotion
and of sacrifice and pain,
It is endless and unselfish
and enduring come what may
For nothing can destroy it
or take that love away . . .
It is patient and forgiving
when all others are forsaking,
And it never fails or falters
even though the heart is breaking . . .
It believes beyond believing
when the world around condemns,
And it glows with all the beauty
of the rarest, brightest gems . . .
It is far beyond defining,
it defies all explanation,
And it still remains a secret
like the mysteries of creation . . .
A many splendoured miracle
man cannot understand
And another wondrous evidence
of God's tender guiding hand.

I love you mommy!

Beautiful (You're My Favorite Gurl)

I love this song!

Believe in You

Happy Mothers Day to all the Young Ladies who aren't mothers!!
I woke up feeling "You Are Beautiful, Like a Flower" and I wanted to share my feelings with you. Enjoy the video and enjoy your day.

I Struggle

I'm faced tonight with staring at something inside me that hunts my being as a woman.

In a mirror I see two traits that we all need especially women and tonight, I'm being honest with myself. I struggle.

There are two traits within me that I struggle with and they are STRENGTH and VULUNERABILITY. I'm asking myself, "how can I master the two"? How can I maintain my femininity and my softness all awhile I'm feeling pushed up against a wall and forced to feel like I'm fighting? I Struggle.

As a woman working and maintaining monthly sales quotas, empowering and supporting other women, it just seems that I'm the one struggling to keep my strength and still maintain my vulunerability my softness without coming across as weak or controlling. I Struggle.

It just seems like if your too soft, men/people walk over you and then you're labeled as a doormat and you're viewed as weak. But, if you're too strong; then you're labeled as a domineering controlling Miss I'm Independent bitch. I Struggle.

If you're too nice then you get dogged out. If you're too hard then you're overlooked. Either way you loose and it's a struggle for me as a black woman to find that inner balance. I want so bad to be able to express my vulnerability and still keep my strength. I Struggle.

How as a woman do I balance the two: Strength vs Vulunerability. That's the question and I don't have the answers. I Struggle.

1st Anniversary

May 4, 2010 Marks my first year blogging. I can't believe a whole year has come and gone already.

I'm very moved that I've been able to keep the blog up and running and I'm moved that I actually have people following. I hope as another year goes by that God continues to give me something to say.

First, let me thank God for giving me strength, courage, inspiration/imagination and the time for blogging. Honestly, if it wasn't for Christ I would be lost in lyfe.

Secondly, let me thank my dear friend Ron Scott. On a serious note, he is one of the reasons I started blogging. He gave me the inspiration to begin and I remember saying too him, "I don't have anything to say and I don't know where to begin". He said, try it. I want to say to him, I tried it and it worked! Thank you Ron for the suggestion and inspiration from your blog.

Thirdly, let me thank my readers and commentators. I thank you for your comments both annoynmous and especially the ones bold enough to leave names. Thank you. I hope you continue to read and share your thoughts, comments and opinions. I just want you to know, I do appreciate you.

Lastly, my blog is designed mainly for women with low self esteem and/or abused people. It's created to uplift, empower, renew, rethink, replenish and hopefully inspire change. I hope this site will help you perserve that which is important to you, so that you will be enabled to STAND on PRINCIPLE.

I'm still new at blogging and if there are any recommendations, any ideas or topics that you wish to explore; please comment and let me know. I am very much open to suggestions and would love feed back.

For now, I will continue my prayers that we can inspire one another to surrender our own will in order to yield to something greater! The best is yet to come!!

Let's continue to journey on our road that explores the heart, mind, body & soul.

I hope as I journey into another year, we journey together and we grow stronger together.

Again, thank you for "MY FIRST ANNIVERSARY"!

DivaTude

Principle #1: A T T I T U D E

I'm sure you heard it before, but Imma say it again. Attitude is Everything!

Over the past years, I've encountered some major attitude adjustments and it taught me a whole hella of lot: It taught me, that what I believe will affect what I do. Amazingily at times, I am so unaware how I allow people to determine how I will respond, act and even think. In other words, I've let others control my emotions.

Its high tyme to get our heads together and begin renewing our minds with so many endless possibilities. Gurlfriend, you got it and Hell to da Yeah you mize well flaunt it. I know, this is gonna be a process of change for you to believe it within yourself.

Gurl, by Changing some bad habits and ways of thinking you are gonna feel Renewed, Revived and Rejuvenated. Its your tyme and mine. So let the DivaTude Begin!!

Diva Tude is something that we as women are afraid to express. Why? Because many see it as being too aggrogant, conceited, flamboyant or whatever. But, who the f*ck cares. Would you rather sit back and allow others to continue to walk over you, step on you and use you as their doormat? I don't think so.

I personally feel, we all should round up some feelings of knowing this one thang: "hey, I got it and I'm gonna floant it". Why not, we do have a whole lot to offer you know. If you got it, baby by all means do you! I applaud YOU!

Let me just ask you two questions, If you don't mind? What changes are you ready for in your lyfe? and, Are you ready to do the necessary work to make these changes become reality?

Attitude: gives you strength and it isn't deceived by every wimp, doesnt impose on the unwillingness of others, and it releases a source of positive energy that catches the eyes of the beholder.

If you don't have it, baby get you some. Yeah, Get the DivaTude and make it brand new.

Attitude, don't leave home without it. You gotta have it, its PRINCIPLE #1.

FreakNik: The Musical

10 Most Offensive Things About 'Freaknik: The Musical'



Here's a write up that was in Essence Mag and honestly, it pulled some HOT points. I don't think African American's are too happy about "Freaknik: The Musical", what do you think?


Many of us, still in disbelief, had to re-watch "Freaknik: The Musical" to make sure that what T-Pain did Sunday night wasn't imagined. Unfortunately the freak-fest was real, and left all those, with even a smidgen of pride in our culture, scratching our heads. Understand, we aren't trying to manufacture this into big deal, because all "jokes" aside, "Freaknik" is in fact a big deal.

Truth is, if something this damaging can get a pass merely because it's labeled entertainment, for sure we all fail.

#We fail because it shows a lack of appreciation for the sacrifices those who came before us made to even make it possible to be Black and appear on television.

#We fail because we teach our children that it's OK to laugh at ignorance, rather than to defend knowledge.

#We fail because we express we're content with "entertainment" defining who we are, resulting in slow growth. "Freaknik," along with shows like it, limit our culture's thoughts, thus concealing the abundance of possibilities we as a collective group can attain. If we are taking it "way too serious," or it "isn't that deep," then wow, what is?

Face it, we are angered and outraged because ultimately, we are embarrassed. The situations and remarks represented in "Freaknik" were deplorable and disparaging mainly because they were ridiculously excessive truths. While it would be hard to argue that these situations/remarks didn't come from a very real place, without question some parts were obnoxiously overdone. We countdown the 10 most offensive scenes that truly had us shaking our heads.
10. Introduction of the Plot: We are introduced to the main characters Virgil, Big Oozie, Lightskin, and Dolo Man as they are contemplating entering a rap contest for the prize: "a lifetime supply of money, clothes, and hos." During the conversation, the question is asked by Virgil, "Are we gonna put our dreams on hold for the weed man?" Big Oozie's reply? "We need that kush before we can accomplish anything."

9. Al Sharpton: Before being killed by a freak accident, Al Sharpton sits under a hair dryer eating a bucket of what Freaknik animators labeled, "Stereotypical Fried Chicken."

8. Take it to Church: Freaknik makes an appearance at a church and misquotes Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. when he states, "They're some bad in the best of us, some good in the worst of us, and some freak in all of us." A blasphemous shouting session has the pastor reminding his congregation, with liquor and OJ in his hand, "This is the house of God...so please make your way to the all-purpose room for the real party."

7. The Show Opener: A blowout party favor in the crack of a woman's cellulite-riddled butt cheeks to celebrate the ghost of Freaknik's return wasn't enough. In addition, they threw in T-Pain's vocals, "Freaknik is back in town/Bitches and ho's going to get down," with strippers sliding down poles and humping the air, and of course Cadillac's on 24's.

6. The Ghetto Commandments: Shown briefly during a scene with Trap Jesus and the Sweet Tea Mob, you would've missed the nonsense if you blinked, but we didn't. It included the commandments: "#4. Thou shalt never loveth thy hoes ... #7. Thou shalt only pop bottles on models ... 8. No fun if the homies getteth none."

5. The "Save You" Musical Number: The ghost of Freaknik explains his non-profit organization for needy strippers: "You don't have to watch yo kids, you can go get your nails did....I'll save ya," and "Go find yourself a rich White man/ and let him pay ya/ it might be minimum wage but I'll save ya.." Showing the umpteenth woman in this cartoon dressed with either her breasts or butt exposed.

4. Obama?: After such a monumental win for the African American community, Freaknik's Obama gives this speech: "I am here at that the battle of the trillest to make an announcement: I, Barack Obama step down as President of the United States of America. But don't fear, it's with great confidence I announce my successor: the ghost with the most, Freaknik! Now let's get this motherf-cker crunked!"

3. Tyra Banks Show: The ghost of Freaknik is a guest on the "Tyra Banks" show, and declares that Tyra looks like a "good ole big ass biscuit." He goes on to illustrate his take on relationships with a non-needed reference to anal sex, "You have to stimulate their minds and their baby chutes, like you do their poop chutes."

2. Frat Party: The four main characters of the show walk into a college frat party, receiving a warm welcome only after the party is informed they are "famous rappers." At this party, one guy performs cunnilingus on a girl, an all-gay Black rap group calls another crew of Black males "monkeys," and the character Lightskin admits he likes White women because they have "pink areola."

1. Trap Jesus: With a cross tattooed on his forehead, the voice of Lil Wayne brings Trap Jesus, the biggest dope man in the South, to life. He explains why selling drugs since he was nine was one of the best decisions he ever made, while cooking crack and using Biblical jargon. Seriously, could it get any worse?