BadAss, Bossy or Bitch

Remember the times where "B*tch" were fighting words? Shit, I can remember like it was yesterday. Yelling, oh you calling out my name? Yeah, I got your b*tch. Those days are seemily long long gone.

Personally, I don't think I could ever become comfortable being called "b*tch" in any one of these terms that society is now using. Maybe I'm just from the back in the day era, who knows. I read this article in the Black Voices Column and thought it might be a little thought provoking. Check it out.

The term “b*tch” has a double meaning. It can be used to represent a “bossy” lady, someone who takes charge, knows what she wants out of life and isn’t taking no for an answer. Or the term can be used to represent a woman who resembles someone with a trashy and poor attitude and just an overall bad personality. I’ve always wondered why women like to be called a “bad b*tch”, when it has such double meaning and it mostly associated with negative connotations.

Rapper, singers and musicians mostly in the hip hop genre use the term in songs to represent their “ideal” type of woman, and in turn our society has taken the word and labeled some of the most powerful women in our generation a “bad b*tch”. Look at women like Rihanna, Nicki Minaj, Beyonce etc. How many times have you heard these women referred to as a “bad b*tch” or even refer to themselves as one?

It’s interesting to see how the work “b*tch” can be used to represent a women of power but at the same time can also be used to represent something negative. It’s also interesting to think about how a woman of authority is called a “b*tch” but a man in authority is a “boss”. Something to think about right?

I've Learned

Maya Angelou said this:
“I've learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.

I've learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights.

I've learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you'll miss them when they're gone from your life.

I've learned that making a 'living' is not the same thing as 'making a life.

I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance.

I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catcher's mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw some things back...

I've learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision.

I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one.

I've learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back...

I've learned that I still have a lot to learn...
I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.