To be or Not to be

I wasn't sure about posting this topic? Why, simply because I couldn't get my thoughts focused to write about the topic and keep it simple.

I was talking with a male friend of mine who wanted to share a few things with me and get some womenly advice. We were discussing STD's. He stated that ONE of his women gave him a STD. Remind you, he said ONE of his gave him. wtf

He stated that he was able to pin down the last 4 women he screwed within the last 2 weeks. Yea, wtf! Anyway, I listened to him and he was convinced that since he told these 4 women that, if they were going to sleep around with other guys beside him; for them to make sure they use condoms. He stated he told all 4 of these women, of which, 2 of them confessed they were with another guy. Again, wtf.

Now, listen to his plea. Because he states, within the past 2 weeks he screwed 4 different women and never used a condom on any of them. Yep, wtf. He blamed them and said if they were sleeping with other guys they should have used some type of protection and that they were "whores". Now, I'm mad and I'm saying "what the fuck"! I let him speak and get this shit off his chest and afterwards, well, lets just say this:

You might think you are "cool" or you are some "KING" by getting laid whenever and with whomever you choose, but remember one thing: there are consequences. Just because you told these women not to sleep around or to use protection, doesn't take you off the hook of responsiblity. Who are you? Are you some KING or GOD of SEX? You are more at fault then these 4 women and actually, I hold you accountable because one: Why are you sleeping with 4 women? and two, Why are you trying to control these 4 women's lives by telling them what they should or should not do? If you must have multiple sex partners then use rules my brotha, use rules:

Rule #1: Never fuck a guy or gal without using a condom. Unless you are in a relationship with this person and you know they are not cheating and messing around. Thats RULE #1. If you guy/gal has multiple sexual partners and you are okay with it then simply follow the rules.

Rule #2: Take some responsibility for yourself. For a guy, keep your condoms on hand, like they say: Never leave home without them! For the gal: keep stash of condoms on hand for the "Mr. Right Now and Just in Case". There is nothing wrong with a woman having her own condoms. Damn, this is the 21st Century and STD's is nothing compared to HIV/Aids.

I just wanted to share this post. I honestly had a blest insightful conversation with him and I'm sure he did as well. All is fair in "real-talk" and keeping it real. My friend gave some insightful tips on men/women and sex and look for More to follow.

bBless and bSafe!

love ya