Prepare-Nourish-Plant-Water-Reap

Okay, this one is pretty damn lenghly. I tried my best to take out some stuff, but honestly, it all needs to be said and read.

I'm speaking about a land and the steps you need to make the land grow. These same steps are needed in our walk of lyfe. Here we go:

On barren land, nothing is going to grow until you nourish the soul, till it, and plant seeds. Your life is like land waiting to be developed. It can grow anything you want once you have prepared yourself by nourishing your mind, body and spirit.

1. Prepare the Land

First clear and clean the infertile land. A cluttered environment is a reflection of a cluttered mind. Nothing can grow with trash covering it. Water, nutrients and sunshine cannot get to the seeds.

Make space for new and improved items, experiences, successes and people.

2. Nourish the Soil

Nothing can grow in soil that is lacking nutrients. Nourish your body, mind and soul. Strengthen yourself physically, mentally, emotionally and lay the foundation.

Strengthen your mind. Learn to enjoy being alone. Even go away on mini trips alone. It's the best time of getting to know yourself and get comfortable with being alone with yourself.

Try to expand your mind by reading. When you stop learning, you start dying. Develop resistance to past actions you have engaged in that you know are not productive to your life. Stop resisting change. Think of change as a gigantic box, covered in colorful wrapping paper adorned with a beautiful bow, holding something wonderful inside. Reconnect or strengthen your spiritual connection. This is an important one.

Work on healing, opening and bringing happiness into your heart. Heal your heart by forgiving those who have wronged you. Yep, heal yourself of the love pain. So what he cheated on you, so what he lied to you, so what he never cared about you. Build a bridge and get over it. This is where I am right now in lyfe. "emotional healing" do it
Not for him, but for you! They will face their own Creator and karma.

Open your heart to love. You deserve love and he is on his way. He is just one step closer! There is no need to fear love because of bad choices you have made in the past. You choose to be with him and he mistreated you, it's ok. Lesson Learned. Grow and move on.
Ladies, The past does not equal nor does it make your future.

You cannot give or receive love, until you can love yourself. Treat yourself as a cherished child to whom you provide the best, protect, spoil, pamper, nurture, encourage and love.

Happiness is not found in or through other people, or outside of yourself. Simply decide to be happy right now. You truly have to be happy and content with you and who you are as a person (flaws and all).

Ladies, its the HERE and NOW phase of lyfe.
There is something to be happy about (being alive, being healthy, having sight, having curbs, having thighs, nice booty, small booty, having dreams, your children, your parents, living in the United States).

We have So much to live and strive for, and there's more than just him.

Make your heart smile every day, at least once when you awake and before you go to sleep. Smile. Laugh.

3. Plant Seeds

Choose what you are going to grow. Choose. You make your own choices. Select seeds that will produce plants to enhance your life.

If you want a better job, look for advancement opportunities through your current employer, investigate educational possibilities that would lead to a better job, and/or start searching newspaper and online for better jobs you are currently qualified to do. A negative environment can be changed immediately.

If you want a better relationship, let go of your current unfulfilling, selfish relationship that keeps you miserable. Let it go. Treat yourself with respect by upholding your standards, morals and values, become the partner you seek. Spend your valuable time with the caliber of people you want in your life. You be your own partner. Get your dignity back and thrive on, stop letting him mistreat and disrespect you!

4. Water the Seeds

Continue to water the seeds you have sowed on a regular schedule, in order to grow healthy and vibrant plants. Enhance the seeds you have planted by expecting them to grow, taking actions to help them grow, and being patient while they grow. Continue caring for and strengthening your mind, body and soul. Love and pamper yourself in every way you possibly can. Strengthen your connection.

5. Harvest Time: Reap What You Have Sowed
Take that dude up on his invitation for a date. Let him take you out. Let him wine and dine you. Acutally date around. Spend time out on several different dates. You don't have to sleep with them all to go out and have fun. Are you on the night club mailing list, or the NAACP member mailing list? Do you subscribe to a gossip magazine, or a financial planning magazine? Do you watch soap operas and reality shows, or the history and learning channels? If you can, take a trip. Go away and have some fun. Do you. Meet Newness.

Your life today is a result of the seeds you planted or failed to plant yesterday. The seeds you plant now are your future. You will be at the mercy of environment and other people with life simply happening to you, if you don’t plant any seeds. If you plant defective seeds, your life will become plagued with illness (physical, emotional, spiritual and financial). Plant healthy seeds, in well prepared and nutrient rich soil, water regularly, and watch your dreams blossom right before your eyes!

Ladies, thrieve on. You deserve it. Go and have a Stella Moment when you need it!

Lost Identity

I never realized how your identity is based upon paper and computers. No, really. Your entire being is identified all in paperwork and computers.

My purse was stolen about 3 weeks ago from Garfields Resturant. Yes, they stole everything. Money, ID's, Debit Cards, etc. You would think, they would take the money ($250.00) and at least leave my wallet. But no, I guess they liked who I was...lol

I had to go to DMV with birth certificate, which by the way isn't enough information. They wanted Social Security Card or Medical Insurance or Marriage License. Now, let me say again. "my freakin wallet was stolen", which means all my information is gone. What part of "lost" did they miss? Do they care, hell no.

DMV sent me to Social Security Office, which again asked for something that has my date of birth listed. No, it can't be the obvious BC. She told me, if you have marriage license or divorce papers we can use that information. Or, go to the hospital and get a copy of your medical records. So, I leave SS office and travel all the way to OVMC. Thank God, I knew the medical records clerk!

Now, I've gone from mad, to frustrated, to pissed! Why in the hell does my identity rely upon another person, that's what I want to know? Why does my identity have to be proven through marriage or divorce? That pissed me off.

To make a long drawn out story short, keep your identity. Stay true to who you are, Keep your identity close and never ever let your identity be based upon someone else.

You know, I had to get my drivers license to hit the plane on Sunday morning!! Finally, I did manage to retrieve my identity back! lol

The Road Less Traveled...

Travelling is something that I'm ready to do. Lyfe may not always go as you planned, but that's lyfe. You can't dwell on it and you can't change it. All you can do is grow from it. Grow and move on.

I'm getting so excited to leave for Long Beach California. I'm packed and keep adding another outfit here and another one there. Already I got 3 bathing suits packed, why? I don't even know. I guess I just want to wear them all before summer falls.

As I was thinking about travelling. I thought about the road less travelled. Imma call that road, "the road to emotional healing". I feel great. Theres a part of me that feels free and relaxed.

On the road to emotional healing, sometimes you have to let go. I mean truly let go and change the mindset. Change the mindset in how we look at relationships. You see, for me; I viewed failed relationships that didn't work out as failure on my part. When actually, it is the complete opposite.

Instead of seeing it as a failure, we have to take up some maturity and a little humility and own up to our own part.

Any past relationship you encounter I think should be viewed as, what did I learn from it; what did I gain from it and what will I do differently the next time around? How else can you let go and move forward? Really, this is the only healthy way.

So, instead of becoming undone and feeling miserably sad; take on a new approach. We should make up in our minds to appreciate the past and see it as a stepping stone. Yep, one step closer.

One thing I've learned through my past relationships is how I've allowed fear to run the show. Fear in being Afraid of many things. Things that I won't even mention. And, once fear has taken the drivers seat, it takes over the road.

As I journey on the road less travelled, Imma make sure my next stop is healthy, safe, fun, well-rounded, filled with respect, communication, commitment, giving and receiving. This road was a stepping stone to me being one step closer.

Today, I'm on a road less travelled and I'm headed for emotional healing. It feels different. It is a road that truly is less travelled.

Long Beach, I can't wait to see you.

Tontastic Experience

What a tontastic experience sitting there watching my kid play in an all star game. I've lived through alot, first watching my oldest play football and Bball and now watching my youngest complete another chapter. It may not have been NFL but for me, it was a special tontastic moment.

Tonight, We road home and just hearing the excitement in his voice telling me the tons of friends and experience he gained over this past week. He said mom, I enjoyed every moment. He said, the coaches and team-mates were great and I liked staying the week at West Liberty.

Tontastic good experience and another chapter completed.

Did I mention, how proud I am? If not, let me tell you. I'm one proud mamma jamma.

"Get a Damn Job"

Sweet, Sexy, Chocoolattte TYRESE is up against a gold digger. Damn, he's so damn good looking. He can make you have a wet one!

Have you heard the latest? Our man, "Tyrese". Have you seen the movie yet, Transformers2? His "soon 2 bee xwifey" can't seem to get over her lazy self!

Tell me, why the hell does she think she should be entitled to a portion of his income? Hey, I'm all for a man taking care of homebase and his responsibilities. But, give me a damn break. What the hell. I'm not all for "gold diggers" making it worse for struggling single mom's.

She's been married to this man for only 10 months. 10 damn months. I don't think that entitles her to anything. Their child yeah. But even with that, I would still say "Get a damn Job".

How dare you think that just because Tyrese is famous and you have a child with him, that you deserve a portion of his HARD SWEATY (uummm) money. She doesn't just want child support ya'll, this lazy greedy a** wants a portion. A damn Portion!

She must be trippin and I say,

GET A DAMN JOB.

Every DIVA deserves escapeISM

I'm coming off a stretch of working 10 hours a day 8 straight days. This one Kicked my a**.

Best part about it all, is that I got a four day break after tomorrow. I can't wait to escape.

After tomorrow's shift, I'm headed to Cleveland! Booked my hotel and leaving up outta here 7am Friday and wont be back till game time! Gots ta go and get up outta the valley.

Can't wait for escapeism, sereity, relaxzation, a nite of poetry, music, fun and chillin with some friends.

Every DIVA needs escapeISM. Just a mini vacation to free the mind, body and soul!

EscapeISM, SEREITY, RELAXZATION, POETRY, MUSIC, FUN and FRIENDS...

Free at last.

Run the Race and Chase the Dream

Chasing your dream is a marathon with very few breaks and no finish line.
If you catch one, chase another!!!
Stay focused and don't let your dream get away.
You are never too young to dream and never too old to make it happen!

Run fast, run hard and Dream on. The dream is the reward.

Don't let it die and remember; there is no finish line.

MAKE IT HAPPEN