Booty Call vs Relationship

I had a real bad visit the other day and it prompt me into doing more thinking on the subject of booty calls. Actally, it made me finally sit down and write this post.

For those of us that's been in a situation like this, we cant keep blaming the dude. At some point, we have to hold ourselves accountable. Unless, this is our first time and with that said; if it didn't make you happy "let it be your last".

I hope I really get some feed back and people won't just scam through my blog, read and not leave any comments. But none the less, I write to get my thoughts, feelings, ideas and opinions out.

About a week ago, a young girl came to house with some normal feelings of self love, self respect and being tierd. She was very upset and in tears explaining what happened. Her issue is like the next woman who is just tired of being a booty call and wants to feelo the longing of a hug, smile and companionship. She said to me and I'm asking you the same question that was asked of me.

Why does he only want me for booty? She thought he was geniune and wanted to spend time but it ended in sex. She said, she hasn't heard from him in 6 days and later that day she received texted and he told her she knew the deal.

I was recently told, by my dear friend, that it's not the man's fault that we are sexy and look good. lol. I guess we should be sloppy and go back to dressing like a nun. hahaha.. well,

Her circumstance like many others, led me to ask myself: How do you help a woman overcome feelings and desires that she longs for in the opposite sex? How many young women are out there searching for this same type of connection and getting the same results?

My heart goes out for this young girl. These types of situations happens all the time when both parties aren't on the same page. Here, She thought they were dating and he wanted to be with her and he straight out said (after the fact) naw, its just a sex thing.

I personally feel, that both parties should lay it out and ask/tell what it is that you want. If they can't agree to fulfilling your request, then make the decision to move on or go along. In any event, be upfront and honest.

After, letting her cry it out and listening to her; I took her to my computer and pulled up the defination to bootycall which is: A booty call is a telephone call, other communication, or visitation made with the sole intent of arranging a meeting for sexual acts with the person being contacted. It is associated with casual sex between people who have established a casual relationship, "friends with benefits. Sometimes the truth hurts, but I'm a firm believer that only the truth will set you free.

Bootycall:
If you only get a call late night....yep, you're a booty call.
If you only get a text and you're a hidden party where no one knows you are messing around... yep, you're a booty call.
If he leaves soon after he bust it...yep, you're a booty call
If the guy doesn't want to see you no other times...yep, you're a booty call.
If you don't hear from him for days after sex....yep, you're a booty call.
It the guy doesn't want to date you or just watch a movie at home...you're a bootycall.

Relationship:
If he spends time with you
If he respects your space, thoughts, ideas & opinions
If he listens and talks to you
If he wants to make sure you are satisfied first
If he wants to make sure you are happy
If he puts your feelings first at times
It he stays some nights with you or vice versa
If you are important to him, he will stake his claim
this list goes on and on....

Ladies, you either are going to continue to settle for being the "bootycall" or you're going to stop and hold out for something REAL! Sometimes, the 1 minute or 2 minute feeling doesn't mount up to lyfe tyme results.

Hey, I know that some women are happy getting that call. We will always have bootycall women and thats their choice. Some, well like my dear special friend once told me: some just aren't cut out.


So ladies you choose because We can't keep blaming the man unless he is fooling and tricking you and even then you only get burned once!

I just wonder, how others feel about the bootycall?